Hi Laurie, Sorry to hear you had such an unpleasant evening. I think accepting that your father is never going to be the Dad you want him to be is a huge step. One thing that has helped me has been to separate my well being from someone else's behavior. I am me and I am responsible for what I do. I don't need to cover for or feel embarassed by what anyone else does. I also don't need to remain anywhere that someone else's behavior is making me uncomfortable. I wish I could have gotten to this point when my son was still growing up. Way too much of my self worth as a parent/person was tied up in how he behaved on any given day.