Originally Posted by
Alera 
We have a rule in our household, and it was set long before I realized it would also help my recovery, that if one of us really needs to get away from the arguement/fight (we fight over communication ALL THE TIME) that person simply says "I need to separate myself right now".
Since we made this rule and we both use it, both of us feel safe using it in our fights and let me tell you it has helped both of us defuse. Especially when we get into those fights when they become circular.
We actually have that rule, which is why I left the room.....
Things have improved somewhat, though I am very skittish (I've been in an abusive relationship before, so the show of violence just shut me down for a couplke of days, even though it was a wall and not me.). It's uncomfortable, but we are sort of talking again.