When I met my husband, I had no idea he was an alcoholic. He did not drink excessively. He did not drink everyday, or even every weekend. And when we did go out together, he rarely drank too much. Fast forward 4 years later to our wedding. He had already admitted to having a drinking problem, and I married him anyway. I don't believe I was codependent when I met my husband, actually I was quite independent at this time of my life. But as the years went on, and his disease began/progressed, my own codependence progressed as well. And when we married, yes, I was totally codependent.