Wow Patch...talk about between a rock and a hard spot.
I don't have the answers either, but I do know that I am one who spent a long time looking the other way when my son was acting inappropriately simply because he wasn't doing durgs.
Inappropriate behavior is just that, regardless of the underlying reason. To allow someone to walk all over us simply because they no longer use is wrong. I not only am guilty at times of this, I KNOW my other two kids have noticed.
No answers here...just understanding
((((hugs))))
Cece