oh Cindi
I am so sorry you are going thru this.
I know you've been waiting for along time for him to hit his bottom and waiting is hard.............
as for the Marchman act, its up to you if you think it may save his life and you think your strong enough then move forward with it, if not thent just take care of you and leave the rest up to your HP
SOOOOO much easier said than done I know
take care you will be in my thoughts