There are no easy answers here, HodoIknow. Judging by my own experience with both bi-polar men and alcoholics, I think you have come at a place where itīs good to take a deep breath and try to let go and let God.
That doesnīt mean Iīm implying you should leave him. I just think it could be a good idea to create a little distance from him to be able to see with some clarity where the relationship is going. Asking questions such as: What effects does it have on me? What can I do to help myself? Try shifting your focus from him to yourself and see how it goes for a while.
I have a feeling you might be overwhelmed, because obviously he cannot give to you what you need, because of his condition.
Iīve been where you are and itīs never easy. Tread carefully. Are you seeing a therapist? Sometimes an objective person can clarify a lot for us.
Love and light,