Red I know exactly how you are feeling, what I have found that helps me the most is working with other recovering alcoholics, AA meetings help me not only learn how to live sober and happy, but also it helps me to remember where I was at before I got sober by working with new comers, every time I talk to them I see and hear where I was at 7 months ago. I see that fresh pain in their eyes, the frustration, the desperation.
SR helps as well, AA & SR keep fresh in my mind where I was and where I do not want to go back to, they both also bring joy to my life when I hear that voice on the phone of some one who not long ago was miserable as hell now laughing and talking about a meeting they went to the night before, or how much they enjoyed doing things they never did when they were drinking.
The biggest thing that keeps me sober and happy is working the steps and going to meetings to learn how to live happy and sober and help others do the same.