I agree with Sunflower Bigsis, if he didn't have anything to hide why is he behaving like this.
I don't think u r being controlling at all...............my ex addict was a compulsive gambler & after 10 yrs of it I ended it. I thought he was the love of my life but boy was I wrong. I stayed alone 10 yrs after ending it being a single mom to 2 sons. After 10 yrs alone I met & married my present husband & we will be maried 22 yrs in Nov. I love this man more everyday & he showed me what marriage means.
I am here now cuz my 40 yr old son is an addict. My son was only 8 when I ended my 1st marriage.................the scars my son had from his exposure to that craziness I think is one of the reasons he turned to drugs............a boy always identifies with the same sex parent. My son had my dad all along but obviously it wasn't enough. My SS was only 18 months when it ended & had a really rough few yrs but now is doing well. I am telling you this cuz you posted you have a son.
Protect yourself & your child
Love,
Diane
You r in my thoughts & my prayers