newblue82!!
Your story sounds so familiar to me, thats how it all began for me years ago. I could 'enjoy' a few drinks and get on with life. Not drink for a few days, but any opportunity to go out with my mates I would drink more to 'socialise'. I too thought I had a problem, but I ignored it. Unlike you, your seeing something that is not comfortable, your so lucky to notice this in the early stages.
Headaches are ususally dehydration (mainly caused by drinking alcohol) When I drank my self to sleep I would never get good quality sleep and I would feel horrid the next day. Im 11 days sober now and I am sleeping like a baby with so much energy through the day.
Coming on here to be brave enough to share your story is the first step. maybe think about what it is you want to do next. Go to AA? Stop completly? Move out so you can be in a alcohol free environment? the choices are yours.
You dont have to conform to society, I have read so many wonderful testimonies of 5 years sober - 35 years sober. If they can do it so can we!
Hope you find what your looking for, my prayers are with you.