Dixie, There is such a thing called the Karpman (sp?) drama triangle. If you google it you can read about it. Basically it says that we, the helper, end up being persecuted by those we save for saving them. It really makes sense. My daughter and I have played it out many times and I always end up being persecuted for helping and then going into the victim mode. It is worth reading for anyone who has ever thought that saving someone was the answer to their problems. A good reason to let our loved ones work out their own issues. Hugs, Marle