rashue sounds like she is living in my house! I have the same 'alientation' (or that is what it feels like to me) taking place with my 23 yr old son .....he was supposed to be the sober one, the one who would never do drugs, but got hooked on pain meds in college sports - and I didn't know. The kids who used to be my best friend now has no time for me, is mean and hurtful, and playing the 'alpha dog' role with his dad. neither see's anything wrong with it. I will say 'Toxic parents' sounds like a book at some point I should read, it might be a healing point for me.