A doctor told me that nicotine is 50 times more addictive than heroin.
By the time we are all about 30 years old we have had something happen to us that we either use to rise above or we use as a license to be a victim. A person can get miles and miles out of presenting themself as a victim.
We are all vicitms. No matter who you are, no matter what's happened to you, you become a person who either rises up or lays down.
Some people have little success because they talk the problem not the solution.
There is a parable that I really like.
There were two sons raised by a horrible alcoholic. The father drank and womanized and was hardly ever home. The two boys grew up to be men. One was a very responsible husband and father. The other was a fallen down drunk just like his father, his wife was misused and his children went without.
Both men were asked the same question. With a father like yours how in the world did you turn out the way you did?
Both men had the same answer, " With a father like mine, how would you have expected me to turn out?"