Leaving it sounds like an option. She seems to be telling you that her idea is, "take it and like it becuase that's all you're worth to me". I would be more than willing to do the work if someone met me part way or even showed interest in having an improved relationship. I decided that I wasn't going to work that hard to learn to live with someone elses vices. I think Alanon is a good idea for your own enlightenment.
I would say my dear, now you have a problem because you don't have a lap dog for a partner anymore, you are on your own with your problemless life.
Now you can drink and be yourself and sit by yourself, because I don't like yourself.
While we're on the topic of something being pointless.......
Alcohol shows, it hags women out physically and mentally.
I'm not a fan of ripping someone up to get what I want but I almost feel an abligation to tell someone when they are making an a-- out of themself.
Somewhere out there is a woman praying for a loving caring man, she doesn't drink.
I might consider spending time with her.