my red flag should have been when i first met my ah, he had scratches all over his face and instead of running away, i stopped to listen to him tell me how bad his ex was treating him. then he eventually asked me a question that i choose to ignore, and it was could i handle him having other girl friends.
lessen learned, listen to your addict, somewhere in all the madness, he'll tell you what you want to know from the start, don't ignore something said, if you don't want that particular thing in your life, you CANNOT change or fix another, time to run and run fast.