Hi Littleclement. Welcome to SR it is a great place. As far as your boyfriend goes I really don't know what to say. Fortunately alot of other people will be along soon & I know some of them will be sure to have experience dealing with your situation.
The addict in my life is my 40 yr old son & he is addicted to coke. His addiction has ben going on for 20 yrs thanks to my 87 yr old parents enabling him.
I can tell you as you already seem to know that addiction is a terrible disease & relapses are the norm.
You should read the stickeys at the top of the page, they are full of good information. Face to face support groups like Nar-Anon are very good for people that love addicts.
Again welcome to SR, keep coming back. It is a safe place to get support & the people here are excellent.
Love,
Diane