Welcome Shawn. You say there is no help where you live. Have you and your gal sat down and talked about your fears? I think if you approached it the right way, the two of you would benefit greatly from couples counceling. I would apparoach this from a positive angle. The two of you are breaking a generaltional curse together. Wouldn't it be nice for your grandkids to have no recollection of alcohol being a part of their lives? I would talk to your gal in just those terms. Of course we want youto keep coming here and maybe even inviting your girlfriend to come here.