Welcome Shawn!
Nope, I don't see this as a 'poor me' post at all. I see this as a man recognizing that things are not quite right and reaching out for help and support. That's not 'poor me', that's 'good for you'!!!
I agree with the others....try Alanon, read as many posts here as you can, and the stickies at the top too.
Keep coming back, ok? It really helps to have support and know that you're not alone. It is especially helpful to be amongst people that understand, and we certainly do!!