Sounds like my exA. Putting the responsibility onto you.
Tazman is so right. Most of what they say about us is actually a reflection on themselves. I just love the sticky by Tazman. Can it be any clearer?
My exA is still trying to control me. He called and started telling me where he thinks I should store my belongings. Surprisingly enough....he wants the big items left there
The mindgames are incredibly difficult.
"You know what else is crazy. I don't react to him or the news of finding out, which he expected. I just told him that it's okay, I don't care. He has to do what he thinks is right for him, etc..."
IMO.....you are doing a great job of detaching.
Take care, Chero!
Grace
(a/k/a "Runs With Clothespins")