confused,
I agree with BigSis here. You can't direct him, to what will make him be sober.
Maybe meetings could make him stay sober? No one knows. I know some people actually DO get sober and remain that way without 12 stepping. Personally, I think it's harder for them without a group to support them, but that's MY problem. I say whatever works.
Hope he follows through, and no, I don't think you're crazy, sometimes you have to follow your heart...your head will kick in later...
Hugs to you,