and tnx again SaTit ! excellent post
especially the Manly bit , detachment has overtones of "not taking care of you woman" makes it kinda harder specially coming from a calvinistic religeos background .
This should be the furtherest thing from both of your minds.
- the funny thing is that her alcholism has made me realize that I could do it , used to be a bit 'childfree' - didn't think I could handle it but now know that I can cope with almost anything .
but not considering it ( well besides the bit that we've been together 4 years now , stable good jobs and she's getting close to 30 and I'm a bit over and got a bit of a ticking clock going)
but it features right at the top of my worst-case scenario list : we're safe and using protection but accidents happen. and twins runs in my family .. a massive stress fest , snowballing ...
and al-anon is friday ( or slightly more likely is friday flu-med fun ! damn change-of-season)
Tnx newenglandgirl and whataboutme
Sorry and Tnx Sunflower and yer right I do need to ligthen up , still battening down the hatches so-to-speak
