Update
Last night my son came to get his car. I told him not to say anything about the party on Sat. I said I wasn't telling AH and I was coming alone. My son said "maybe that would be best." My other son (grandson's father) was there also, and I told him the same thing, he said "OK, that's a good idea" What a shame when your own kids really think it's a good idea not to tell you or have you around. I actually thought I'd never see the day! When my older son saw AH last night he said to him "so how's that having beers only once in a while coming along, still doing it that way?" AH just looked and walked away. My son never spoke up like that. Strange.