I'm sorry you are going through this also, but for God's sake, why are you even bringing up having kids with an alcoholic that is not in recovery?!? This should be the furtherest thing from both of your minds. All that I have endured over the past 10 years w/ my AH...I am beyond thankful that we don't have children, and that's NOT because I don't want any.
Take care of yourself! Have you tried Al-Anon?