I am standing firm. He has to request to be put on a different crew and the transfer may take a week or so, its his business not mine and its so nice to know Im going home to peace and quiet just me and the boys.
Im trying to mostly remember never volunteeer anything. Let him ask. For example it would be natural for me to bring an extra cup of coffee for when I pick him up. It was a fight not to yesterday and I wouldnt have cared, but when he asked this morning when he called to assure me he was awake and wanted to go to work he asked if Id mind bringing a cup.
I really dont have many expectations right now, instinct says he's gonna switch into functioning active mode, so Im watching from afar.