They actually used to think I was too hard on him or I was over-reacting, now they are able to see. My AH has been on my other son's butt to get his car out of our driveway (my kids don't live with us - they are 28, 25 and 24). Three mos. ago, AH told him he could leave it there no problem. Anyway, I e-mailed son today to tell him AH wanted it out of there. Son told me AH had tried to call him all weekend, but he knew he was drunk so he didn't pick up. He also said "my, he changes his mind quite frequently doesn't he", and that he feels bad for me to live with that everyday. See, my kids don't even really want to talk to him. And no, none of us have been to Alanon. Maybe I should suggest it to them.