Boundaries are what keep us sane and safe. You did what was right for you and your kids...inturn you did what was right for him. It goes back to the old saying..."If nothing changes then nothing changes". But even when things change sometimes our beloved addict does not change with it. But atleast you would have made positive changes for yourself. It sucks...addiction sucks. I hated when I had to divorce my AH...and I stress the words "had to" because it was not what I wanted either. But in the end...life must go on and what kind of life is it when you are stressed out and angry and sad and heartbroken all of the time. I'm not saying that you are or should follow the same path I did...getting a divorce is something I felt I had to do. Just keep making the choices that are best for you and your kids..you can't go wrong doing that.