I've been thinking about stuff like this for awhile...since every occassion has been ruined by AH. My son will be turning 5 in a few months. Every picture of AH for the kid's birthdays, is AH standing there holding a beer can....I am going to insist that this time, it will be a KIDS party, which means no alcohol. If AH can't handle that, he is welcome to go somewhere else to drink. (and I don't mean hide in the garage!)
No it's not your responsibility to tell AH....sad when we have to draw straws to see who has to be the one to deal with them huh? I am all for confronting him, telling him he is invited if he is sober that day, his choice at that point.