Thanks so much, Cheryl! Well, my progress in this issue has evolved over many years, too. We've been married for 12 years, but I didn't really start recognizing that he indeed had a problem until maybe two years ago. Not being a drinker myself and seeing the signs was probably a factor. And I assumed that one had to be falling down drunk and slurring one's words to be an alcoholic. Then I started noticing that, when I would mention something that he said the night before, or a TV program that we had watched together, he wouldn't recall it all all. And then I started putting 2 and 2 together. And now I'm really vigilant and on the case. But I realize that you can't change someone - until he recognizes that he has a problem, he'll never be able to address it. I pray that he does soon....I don't want to see him spiral downward. lola