Hi again TexasGirl....Your XAH sounds just like my guy. He can be very ominous and threatening, and I'm the type that refuses to be intimidated. He weighs 230 and I'm 120 lbs and petite. But I have zero tolerance for physical abuse as I grew up with an abusive stepfather. Calling the police that time did the trick. Tonight, I immediately recognized that glazed look and backed off. I know by arguing with him that things escalate since his inhibiitions are lowered due to the alcohol. I've also called his parents and he immediately backs off and comes to his senses. A woman's got to do what a woman's got to do to protect herself. It's actually quite sad as he's a nice guy when he's not drinking. No one would believe me if I told them about his jeckyl and hyde act.....lola