Hello....We do not have any children together but have grown children of our own who do not live with us...This problem affects only me. Thanks for the suggestion. I do not help him at all when he's lost things while he's in that state. I've gotten angry at him not knowing that he'd been drinking. What he'll do is put his face just inches from my face and try to intimidate me by violating my body space. I've then grabbed the phone to call the police, and he hurled the phone and threw my car keys so that I couldn't leave. However, this threatening behavior has ceased to happen since I summoned the police. Now he knows it's not an idle threat and that I mean business. Thanks for responding.