At first I grieved the loss of my dreams for my daughter. Now I just grieve the fact that I really don't have a daughter. When she is active in her addiction, any kind of a relationship is impossible for me to have with her. I can't invite her to go shopping. She might sell the clothes for drugs. I can't listen to her problems because she is with her abf because he buys her drugs. So it is hard to listen to how abusive he is when she choses to stay there. There is no common ground for us to have a conversation. What do you talk about to someone who has absolutely no life beyond scoring and using drugs. Would I have liked my daughter to finish college, marry a nice man and have a family. Hell yes, but right now I would settle for her getting clean. I no longer have dreams for her, just hope that someday she will have dreams for herself. Marle