I am sorry that you are having these issues with your mother. I can't really relate. My mother isin't the alcoholic and my relationship with my AH/NPD father is pretty much non-existant. I do live at home but he is rarley here and we don't talk when he is here (other then the occasional fight where I either 1. ignore his baiting or 2. once in a blue moon get so angrey that ignoring it isin't an option and a huge fight occurs.). He is also not in recovery. I am not quite sure what advise to give about maintaining a relationship with an AH parent especially an AH mother. All I can offer is support and a suggestion that you stick to the boundries that you set. It is hard to remember that those boundries are in your best intrest when dealing with guilt trips and emotional manipulation from an AH/Co-dependant parent. All I can say is be true to YOUR desires, remember WHY you set those boundries, and STICK WITH THEM no matter what. Good luck,.