thanks for the encouragement. I went to Al- Anon tonight and we discussed the slogans and how they help. One thing I came away with is that one should remember to say a prayer of gratitude to God as well as ask for His guidance. I am very grateful that He has given my son this second opportunity. My son's wife is giving him another chance to have a home, he has a home to come to when he finishes his treatment. Many do not have these things in place. He already has a sponsor which is a good sign. So yes, I am grateful for the kindness that has been shown to me, my son and our family. Thank you for your support and I do want others to know that there is always hope. fondly, dixie