but i did wind up with a tall alcoholic
Im considering making this my new signature line.
Hey bv, you know one thing I learned was that I was emotionaly wacked out by focusing all my attention on his actions when my ex was in sober periods..let me explain this.
Here was my schedule:
Being concerned about
:
How much or how little he puts in at work.
What may trigger him
What triggers can I keep away from him
What I didnt say bc it may hurt his feelings and he would pick-up
Things I did say bc it may hurt his feeligns and he would drink.
Not going out with my friends bc he 'needed my support'
Smothering him with attention so he would feel loved and not pick-up
Worrying that he wasnt paying enough attention to me and maybe he didnt like me when he was sober.
I say this in love, but I see alot of worry on your end about HER recovery. She is a grown woman yes?
I found that time away from him (not just at work) would have REALLY helped me. I was spending every second I wasnt working with him. Why? It was watching and waiting and nail biting. He wasnt an idiot, didnt like being treated like a kid, living under a microscope or being smothered.