Holy Cow HKAngel24.... Bravo!
In alcoholism or addiction it is as if we put up with so much for so long that we cease even seeing how we are contributing to our own unhappiness. The longer we stay with someone who hurts us, the more we begin to believe we somehow deserve it and the harder it becomes to "see the light" so to speak.
I love that part.... Also about the investment in another person that we stay stuck and cant let it go. Do you ever wonder if staying stuck does not sometimes feel safer then letting go to the unknown, at least the pain of being stuck is a known pain. I know when I let go of a person I love, really let go, There will be extreem pain, I dont know how deep, or for how long but I know that I will "have" to go through the pain to get to the other side....
Sometimes that is just too scarry. Thank God I know there is a "other side" out there and if I just "let go" Im one step closer to senerity, happiness and the relationships that I deserve.