But there are options when he gets out. My ex used to tell me he had "no place to go". But in a pinch, there are places men can go at least in the city I used to be in. And like I said before...maybe he needs to be in a place where there is NOBODY. He needs to do it on his own. Why help himself if he can always find someone to do it for him? I guess when you are ready, this will make sense.