Thanks for all the answers - I'm still struggling with my inner self to let her handle all these things for herself....wonder why that's so hard? Suppose I think I know everything and everything I know is right? Hmmmm need to think about this. Anyway, the director of the house we...no make that she's looking at...willl only speak with her now, reminding me again to butt out. She's driving there as we write and yes, there is a waiting list. But praying it will give her the support and structure she so desperately needs to stay c & s. Everyone here is awesome and I pray for the numerous wonderful people and situations they're in.