Originally Posted by
chero 
.... But I'm scared to set the boundary because I don't think he would respect it...
You don't have to set any boundaries today. Or tomorrow. It's usually best to wait until you have a good group of people in real life that can help you figure out how exactly to set your own boundaries. That would be people from al-anon meets.
Then you can start with a very small boundary. Something that if he does _not_ respect, then you can follow thru with a very small form of protection for yourself. Does he ever raise his voice at you in a disrespectful manner? You can set a boundary that if he raises his voice in a disrespectful manner you will simply walk away, and if he continues to disrespect you then you will call some people in al-anon and go spend a couple hours with them until _you_ feel ready to come back.
That's just an example, you'll have to figure out something small that works for _you_.
Mike
