Originally Posted by
chero 
But don't you have to at least like yourself to set boundaries?
chero, i never saw value in myself either. i needed other people to make me feel good about myself, which is the codie in me.
make a list of things you're good at. make a list of accomplishments that you're proud of. i don't even *know* you, but i could already list several things that i can tell just by reading your posts.
you have to respect yourself to set boundaries. loving yourself will come, gradually, as you put your foot down and recognize what you deserve and what you don't.