Parent, I'm glad to see you say that. It is hard to watch your child self-destruct. But that's why it's called "self" destructuon. They do it without our help. They made choices. All we can do is let them know if they want help, we are there for them. That no matter what they choose, we love them. We may not approve of their choices, but we still love them. My motherly instinct is starting up a bit again. My 21 yr old recovering heroin addict has lost 15 lbs quickly. She does not live with me, so I don't see what I would if she were still here. She has bailed out twice on plans with her sister in the last week. I am getting ready to face the fact she could be on the road to another relapse. But as you say, It is not my fault. Hoping I'm wrong. Tying not to over think things. Sending hugs & prayers.