Don't know what country you are in, but there are meetings almost every country. Does the Rehab Center have a family program? Cause that is what you need. He's obviously not ready to get help. And if he is "mean" about it, you better be careful who you talk to. Drugs, pills & booze are a bad combination. My ex got violent when he drank & this is a man who would have never laid a finger on me clean & sober. You need to take care of your children now. Yes, he might die. And yes, that is a hard thing to handle. But would you rather your children grew up to say....Daddy's an addict? I saw what living with an alcoholic & an addict did to my children. And I'm sorry I didn't leave their dad years before.
Lynne