Tryin, Welcome to SR. Another mom here. My addict is my only child, daughter 20. She is also addicted to opiates, heroin and oxycontin. I know that I was not the perfect mother when she was growing up, but I always loved her and she knew that. I may be responsible that she is spoiled, or that she has a stubborn streak or that she loves nice thing; but I am not responsible for her being an addict. She chose to fill that hole in her soul with drugs. She did not know that what she thought was the answer to her problems of growing up would become her problem. I tried to fix her. When that did not work, I wanted to give up. Then I decided to try something different. I found this site and started to read and listen and you know what I found. That I was not alone. That was and still is a good feeling. So stick around, read, post or just vent. We are here for you and I think that you will find that you will start to change whether or not your son does. Mom hugs to you, Marle