for me, what you are already doing is what i find i have to do, keep reminding yourself until it becomes habit, then you'll find that it won't be such a struggle. the good thing is that you've already gotten to the point where you can catch your actions and change them. yes it is a struggle sometimes, thats why its important to stay focused on you and not him. it is a little easier when your not living in the mist of it all. still praying for ya.