I am new to this site - but my AS lies, lies, lies. He tends to be a bit more honest when he sits in jail for a while, but that might also be to suck me in for money or a visit. He is a 35yo man who has been an addict for 15 years and has lied all of that time. Sometimes, when he has had a few months of working a program, he gets a little more honest doing the steps - but it never seems to last. He even lies when there is no reason to. And as someone else mentioned - he is charming and the ladies like him, so he can lie to get what he needs....sad thing for him is - he is getting less charming and more physically unappealing as the drug years go on......which is good for anyone who falls for it! I believe he does not intend to hurt me - he is so into his own addiction, he is doing what works ~ to get what he needs~ and tries to cover his tracks....the lying is just who he is.