Forgiveness?
I haven't been here in a while, but I had some revalations and advice lately and I felt like this was the place I needed to be.
My idea of forgiveness is:
something happens
the person who screwed up apologizes after realizing they have done something wrong
the person who was wronged forgives them
But in my situation, my parents have no idea that they did or are doing anything wrong. They are both addicts, both justifying everything they do, and both in denial I guess. I have been in group therapy for a while (it was as a class requirement for my group counseling class and now it's over) and we talked about forgiveness and how I have not forgiven them yet. I don't know how I can forgive them though when there has been no apology or admittance of any wrongdoing. And why should I? To me, that seems almost like admitting defeat.
So I would really like someone to tell me why I am supposed to forgive them and how to even start. Anyone?