BeginAgain,
Yes, know that cutting your father off for all of the emotional, physical and spiritual abuse IS an option for you. Many of us have done it as a way to survive.
You can do it if it's interfering with your ability to heal, and to have a healthy and fulfilling life of your own. And he's given you plenty to heal FROM, god knows.
If things don't change, consider cutting off contact and writing him a letter letting him know why you're doing it. He's abusive and manipulative even now, and it seems that no one has ever called him on it.
Hugs and strength to you
GiveLove