I think that you are doing the best you can Cindy.
You have more than one issue you are trying to deal with. I wish you the best.
I know sometimes my words may come at you as harsh. I do not mean them to. Life is harsh enough for you living with addiction ANd having other issues beyond that AND having children.
I will pray for you. See if you can get to an alanon meeting if you can (you said your boss is supporting this idea?) and then see if you can go to six meetings.. hard as that is.
Again, wishing you the best.