Hi angrybutScared, I'm a recovering alcoholic and thought I
would give a point of view from one alcoholic's side, I don't know how all
would view it.
Some of the hardest time spans in alcoholism according to studies, are the 30, 60, 90, 120, 1 year and 2 year mark. I am at 4 plus months and have the support of my S/O and friends. I celebrate every month as a milestone. I live each day as it comes and leave it behind, but we as humans always look to the future, we have to if we are to have goals.
Personally, I would be touched and not feel pressured, but supported by your
gift. I would feel proud and loved. Yes we take one day at a time, but we are quite happy to reach the 30, 60, 90, 120, day marks, speaking for myself anyway...
Weather you give him the gift or not is not going to determine weather or not
he relapses. But he will remember the gesture.
I hope he can stay on the recovery road, and if he does relapse, I hope he can get back on the road.
I wish you and your family the very best, hope3