Why do they lie?
Why do they continue to lie, even when the truth is in their best interests?
I can understand lies to save yourself from "getting in trouble", but why the lies that have no visible reason other than just to lie. Maybe it's just control, to keep you on your toes.
I get so angry with myself for getting sucked in; and then I see others get sucked in, who are a lot farther away from the situation.
Everyone wants the alcoholic/addict to get better, to the point that when he seems to be making a god decision, we try to give him the benefit of the doubt. And then we are sucked in...when we any of us learn. The lies make no sense, the person makes no sense...none of it makes sense. Just move on. It is a process for those "left behind". Those of us that can remember the person that once was, and is no more.
Some day I will write a book. Until then, I will just try to stay sane, and away. Just GO AWAY!!