Good for you. It's an important step to realize that. I've done that so many times too. It takes a conscious effort to stop myself.
Originally Posted by
GingerM 
My guess is that you didn't lose your identity, but rather that you were never allowed to have one in the first place. We, as AC's, have difficulty setting boundaries because we'd never been allowed to have them in the first place.
Ginger, were you lurking in the shadows of my childhood? LOL!! You described my upbringing PERFECTLY!!!!
Boundary??? What's that? Is it like the border lines that surround states on a map???? LOL!!