honey,i can not say if this is his bottom,that is up to him. i thought my sons botton should have been 12 yrs. ago but he is still at it.what can you do? you can take care of yourself & your daughter.she has a birthday & you can still go on with your plans.your husband did this not you. he is his own responsiablity. i am so sorry he has done this.i am glad you are with us here at S.R. please keep coming back.let me know how u r. prayers for you & your family,